It has been a while since I have written about a subject closely related to the reason I started this blog in the first place. As you may recall, I was encouraged to share my experiences of depression in the hope that these would help others suffering from the same or a related illness. I am not in any way qualified as a clinician, but worked for more than twenty years for a large NHS Trust which provides mental health services and have often had informal contact with patients. Whilst I have tried to widen the scope of this blog I haven’t lost sight of its raison d’etre: mental health will always be a concern and an interest for me, and I will return to it now and then. As I am doing today.
The reason for this is the furore that arose both on Twitter and in the real world over the sale by Asda of a Halloween costume described as a ‘mental patient.’ In case you haven’t seen the offending article, here’s a shot taken before Asda withdrew it from sale (click to enlarge this and all images):
Strangely enough, in all my years of working in sites where mental health patients go, I’ve never seen one looking remotely like this. I first came upon this in the early hours of this morning after I’d woken, couldn’t get back to sleep, and thought I’d take a quick look at Twitter as I hadn’t been there for a while. I retweeted several comments about this, including two from a long term Twitter friend who, despite her own experience of mental health problems, saw this as something she had a right to see as an irrelevance. I don’t dispute that right, but I too have a right to a differing opinion, as do all of the other people who took to the airwaves and forced Asda to withdraw the product from sale. I blogged about sensitivities on mental health issues many months ago, and would be the first to accept that I may have become over-sensitised to where the dividing line between humour and abuse is drawn in this context, following my own experience of depression. Yes of course, my now ex-friend was right: we can choose to decide how we respond to things, and we will have different sensitivity levels in coming to those decisions. But is this particular episode simply a question of the moralists among us – like me! – choosing to be offended by what was intended to be humorous? I think not, and that is why I believe she was so very wrong to use the usual trite phrase ‘Man up’ in her comment that taking offence might be a form of mental illness in itself.
Asda aren’t alone in offering something like this for sale. Earlier today you could still buy this from Tesco:
And there are some online fancy dress specialists joining in the ‘fun’ too. Take a look at this:
Consider for a moment what Halloween actually is. It dates back centuries, and ‘experts’ disagree as to whether it is of Christian or Pagan origin. Either way, I don’t think the origins really matter now.To my mind it is a blatantly commercialised, manufactured event to increase the profits of companies who are showing that they don’t really care about hurting people, or about playing on the stigma that mental health suffers. I can’t see this as a case of moral outrage by the self-righteous, sorry. Asda and Tesco pride themselves on being places where all the family can go to shop, yet they don’t seem to understand that this kind of ‘joke’ may be so very damaging. What if it was your child who was on the point of saying that they thought they might have a problem, but was then dissuaded from doing so because it’s just something to laugh about – or worse, a reason to be laughed at? One in four of us will experience some kind of mental health problem in our lifetime, and I know from experience that it is incredibly hard to realise this in the first place, and then to seek help. This is the 21st century and by now we should really be able to talk about mental health without feeling ashamed to do so. Asda and Tesco are both huge companies with a major influence on our daily lives. That they are pandering to stereotypical images of people with a damaging illness is, in my view, shameful.
In the interest of fairness I should point out that Asda did bow to public pressure and remove the costume from sale, and apologised for it. But their apology was, as far as I can tell, only made on Twitter. I’ve looked at their website today and can find no mention of the affair. If they seriously meant their apology to be taken as sincere – and not just a regret that they were going to lose some profits – I would have liked to have seen it in a prominent place, such as their website’s home page and maybe in the Halloween costumes section too. Until then, I and many others will remain cynical – or, as I prefer to see it, realistic. In making their apology they promised to make a substantial donation to Mind, the mental health charity. To me this shows that they haven’t really learned much from this episode: Mind is of course a large and influential campaigner for, and provider of, mental health services. But it is far from being alone in this – there are many other independent and charitable organisations working in this field, necessarily so to make up for continuing state underfunding of mental healthcare. Do they seriously think that by choosing one organisation as the recipient of their blood money they are making everything better? Unfortunately, I believe they do, and this just underlines how much more education this country needs before mental health issues are understood and are free from stigma and abuse. Asda proudly pats itself on the back for its support of two breast cancer charities, so why not use its money to do something meaningful, instead of just making a token PR gesture? A long term commitment by one of the country’s major retailers would be an enormous boost. It’s World Mental Health Day on 10th October, which would seem to be an ideal opportunity.
So, come on Asda, how about it?
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Good for you, Clive. Making fun of mental health issues keeps STIGMA alive – and those of us with “the sense of a goose” needs to sing out in opposition. I’m proud of you.
xx,
mgh
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Thank you so much, Madelyn. I really appreciate your support xx
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My pleasure, Clive.
xx, mgh
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I have never seen anything like these costumes before and wonder who on earth would want to buy one!
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Hopefully all the fuss when Asda and Tesco sold these will have dissuaded anyone from ever doing it again. Some people have a very warped sense of humour!
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I’m not surprised by these insensitive and cruel portrayals of the mentally ill. I spent most of my teaching career working in the field of special education, and know how people with invisible disabilities can become victims of ignorance and bigotry. I keep hoping things will change…
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Sadly, Diane, neither am I. We need to educate ourselves much better on such issues to have any chance of removing the stigma.
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You do have to wonder at the lack of sensitivity on the part of the manufacturer and also the buyer. No one would manufacture a breast cancer costume or buy one.
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Thanks Bernadette. That’s part of the problem with mental health issues – they are less visibly obvious. And phrases like ‘he’s a nutter’ and ‘it went mental’ are all too common.
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One has to wonder who are designing these costumes. I think maybe young people with no idea of mental health issues? Let’s hope that the furore caused by these costumes opened up the designers’ eyes a bit more…
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It beggars belief that anyone could ever think these were funny. Or sell them. I’ve checked Asda’s website and this year’s collection doesn’t have anything like this. A pity that their much trumpeted AsdaFoundation does nothing for mental health though.
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Reblogged this on Take It Easy and commented:
Coincidence, or what?! I’m in the process of writing a post on mental health, for later this week. And then this appears in my Facebook newsfeed as a memory from three years ago today.
It has been ages since I’ve written about mental health – which was, after all, why I began this blog. Most of you who now read my posts on a regular basis won’t have seen this one before, so I thought I’d share it again as a lead in to my own ‘mental health awareness week.’ The saga of Asda selling so-called ‘funny mental health costumes’ may be history but, sadly, the stigmatisation of mental health issues is still very much with us. I myself had an incidence of this last year, and it showed me that even supposedly intelligent people are only too ready to make ill-informed judgements based on such stigma. The points I made in this post are just as relevant today as they were three years ago. And to my knowledge, Asda has never taken any mental health related initiatives, despite this episode.
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You write well, I enjoyed your post.
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Nice post !
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Great post, thanks for sharing.
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Very well written post.
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A very interesting and informed look at a societal woe that continues to be stigmatized not only from a human standpoint but also an educational and commercial way too.
As you so mentioned “One in Four” of us will in some way come into contact with and often pursue services in the Mental Health field in relationship to a whole host of issues and orients involving mental stability. And add to that, the millions of family members and friends that will deal with and support those seeking help.
Surely, those in need do not need the added stigma of comic relief breathing down their necks and presented to those friends and family members who see, and often with quandary in itself, the possible hidden effects that come to bear in this outrageous partying on a disease.
Thank you my friend Clive for yet another call to awareness in a field and health area that, on it’s own, often discriminates with those seeking simple health care. 🌟
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Many thanks for your kind words, Joseph, and for your continuing support.This sorry episode amply demonstrates how much still remains to be done to remove the stigma. We can’t afford to give up on it, though, as it can literally be a matter of life and death for some.
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Reblogged this on GeminiOT and Health and commented:
Another great post from my friend Clive …
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Thank you for this Gem!!
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I totally agree with your views on this matter Clive. I know you like I have a great sense of humour, but this kind of promotion is is total wrong and stigmatizing. It makes me realise there is still much work to be done to educate people on mental health. With World Mental Health Day coming up let’s hope more people begin to share our awareness and concern on such issues.
Best wishes,
Gemini xx
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Many thanks for your kind words and reblog, Gem. It never ceases to amaze me how much ignorance there is around this. It needs the Asdas and Tescos of this world to do something big for WMHD, but sadly I fear they won’t. xx
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Well said Clive, mental health already has so much stigma attached to it. Now using a commercialised holiday to more or less attack those with a mental health issue. ASDA and other orgnanisations need to remove, make an apology and also donate some money I think to the many organizations that work really hard in supporting those with mental health.
Thank you for writing this 🙂
I use to work in this area as well many years ago.
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Many thanks Clare. As you may have gathered it’s something I feel strongly about, and in the face of so many people on Twitter saying ‘it’s a joke, get over it’ there clearly is a lot needing to be done!
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Great piece Clive, I couldn’t agree more. It is sad to think that the work of so many organisations encouraging us to talk and be open about our mental health is being undone in this way.
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Thanks Nicola! Hope all’s well with you x
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