About Me

Hi! I’m Clive, I’m 65, been divorced nearly 11 years, live on my own, and have two beautiful grown up daughters who are the centre of my world. I retired in September 2013 from working in the NHS, for a large mental health Trust in London. I am a Man of Kent, exiled for many years in Essex, but am content in my adopted county. I love books, both real and electronic, and listening to music both at home and live – particular favourites are what might be termed folk, rock, Americana and alt-country. I also watch a lot of sport on TV, especially football and cricket, and am a long-time supporter of Dover Athletic, my home town team, and after retirement I became a season-ticket holder at my local team – Leyton Orient. Sadly, I’ve had to give that up, for health reasons, but am hopeful of renewing again at some point.

All very ordinary then, so why am I telling you any of this? This is my first, and so far only, blog. I have had two periods of depression, and returned to work from the second, longer spell in July 2012. I was encouraged by my counsellor to write about my experiences and to share them, both as therapy for me but more importantly in the hope that others will find this helpful, especially if they are fellow sufferers. The fuller version of my story is in three parts, which you will find in the archive for November 2012 or by clicking on ‘My story’ in the menu at the top of the screen.

Looking ahead, I’ll be sharing random thoughts on the joys of retirement, along with anything else that springs to mind.

I hope you find this interesting, helpful and maybe even amusing in places. Please drop in and say hello!

(October 2012, updated November 2012, September 2013/2014/2015/2016/2017/2018)

Additional note

Apropos of nothing really, but I’ve been asked why and how I choose the titles for my articles.

When I started this blog I posted a three-part story of my depression. I called it The Story of my Illness because that’s what it was. Given the subject, I didn’t feel the need to give it anything other than a straightforward title: I just didn’t think anything else would be appropriate. Unfortunately, two people I thought were friends then mocked the title as being boring and ‘unsexy.’ This abuse was given a sense of irony by the fact that one of them is hypersensitive, but only about herself: she’s heartless towards others and their feelings. I’m terribly sorry if I offended you, ladies, but that’s the reality of it! However, I decided to take a positive from an unpleasant experience and jazz up future posts a bit with what I hoped would be more interesting titles. I settled on using either actual or ‘adapted’ titles from books, plays, films, TV programmes, songs or albums which have some vague or contrived relevance to the subject. I hope you agree this is better, though I doubt if they will ever revisit here to see the improvement I’ve made with their kind assistance!

(February 2013)

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  1. May 12, 2017 at 11:00 pm

    FINALLY made time to read your About post – and jumped over to Stevie’s interview & commented there as well. So much to read, so little time in any day. ::sigh::
    xx,
    mgh
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMORE dot com)
    ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder
    “It takes a village to educate a world!”

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    • May 12, 2017 at 11:28 pm

      Thank you, and thanks for following. To be honest I thought you already were!

      Liked by 1 person

      • May 12, 2017 at 11:40 pm

        I did too. Sometimes the WordPress Gremlins “bump” blogs I’m following, so perhaps that’s what happened?

        Then again, my computer has the hiccups today so perhaps, in checking, I clicked twice, unfollowing and then refollowing?

        Who knows, but all’s well now – at least in that realm.
        xx,
        mgh

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  2. February 12, 2017 at 12:27 pm

    Hi Clive! Thank you for following my blog at francesmacken.com. I look forward to reading many of your posts in the future, and I’m very pleased to make your acquaintance 😀

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    • February 12, 2017 at 12:45 pm

      Hi Frances, many thanks for following mine too. Looking forward to reading more from you too 😊

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  3. January 10, 2017 at 6:46 am

    If there were an award for most endearing blog tag line, I’d vote for you. 🙂 Enjoying your blog.

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  4. December 21, 2016 at 10:43 am

    Hi Clive. Although I’ve seen – and liked – many of your comments on Stevie Turner’s blog, this is the first time I’ve clicked through to find out more about you, encouraged by Stevie’s generous sharing of links this morning. I enjoyed your recent post about Cat Stevens and from the above I see that we share musical taste – although you would have to add jazz to complete the list of mine.
    I’m off to check out a few more of your posts now. Merry Christmas

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    • December 21, 2016 at 11:03 am

      Hi Frank, many thanks for this, and for the Twitter follow. I’ll take a look at your blog too, but I’m afraid we’re going to have to agree to disagree on jazz – it does nothing for me! Merry Christmas to you too 😊

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  5. December 14, 2016 at 12:25 pm

    Hi Clive. I got here by clicking your comment from Bernadette’s SENIOR SALON#52 (I just wanted to mention that in case you’d be curious where I found your blog.)

    Anyway. I love your blog! Haha. I haven’t browsed around much yet, but I will soon. I love the whole concept behind it, and how genuine you are. Hope to see you around this blogosphere. ❤

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    • December 14, 2016 at 1:00 pm

      Hi Liz. Thanks for finding me – I’m happy for people to do that however they manage it! Thank you for your kind words and for following. I’ll reciprocate and look forward to reading your blog too.

      Liked by 2 people

  6. November 6, 2016 at 12:04 am

    Clive, I applaud your effort to keep moving forward and try new things. Depression has been the greatest challenge of my life. I stand with you in supporting others through this difficult journey. Thanks for your courage to speak out.

    Liked by 2 people

    • November 6, 2016 at 8:53 am

      Thanks Ali, kind of you to say that, and thank you for following. I’ve returned the compliment. Your efforts to help others are equally admirable 😊

      Liked by 2 people

  7. October 16, 2016 at 7:07 am

    Hi Clive, lovely to meet you here. Having battled my own periods of depression and anxiety I can relate. Look forward to exploring more of your blog and getting to know you. Cheers and warmest wishes from down under.

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    • October 16, 2016 at 9:29 am

      Hi Miriam, thanks for your kind words and it’s good to meet you too! I’ll take a look at your blog too, always good to find new ones 😊

      Liked by 1 person

      • October 16, 2016 at 10:03 am

        Absolutely. You’re more than welcome Clive. Hope you’re enjoying your weekend.

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      • October 16, 2016 at 6:33 pm

        Yes thanks, almost over now but I’m retired, so it doesn’t really matter! Hope yours was good 😊

        Liked by 2 people

      • October 16, 2016 at 10:31 pm

        It was, thanks. We had a local Open Cellars event so I enjoyed a bit of wine tasting. Five wineries in three hours! 🍷

        Liked by 1 person

      • October 16, 2016 at 10:34 pm

        Sounds good to me! Hope you aren’t suffering a Monday morning hangover 😉

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      • October 16, 2016 at 11:02 pm

        No, we didn’t have that much! Just tastings and nibbles along the way. Lots of fun though. 🙂

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      • October 16, 2016 at 11:03 pm

        Very restrained. I’d have been legless!

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      • October 16, 2016 at 11:08 pm

        Haha Someone had to drive home! 🙂

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      • October 16, 2016 at 11:09 pm

        Fair point! Glad you had such a good time though 😊

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      • October 16, 2016 at 11:17 pm

        Thanks Clive. Now a new Monday and week starts here and the sun is shining. Hope you have a great week ahead. Nice to connect. 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

      • October 16, 2016 at 11:26 pm

        Good to hear. Been raining here a lot today. I’m off to bed now, beauty sleep badly needed. Very good to have met you. Have a great day!

        Liked by 2 people

  8. July 25, 2015 at 8:39 am

    Thanks for following The Immortal Jukebox. I hope you will enjoy the wide variety of music covered and some entertaining writing. I welcome comments from readers. I usually post on a weekly basis. If it has been a while since you visited come on over and see what’s new on The Jukebox! Regards and good luck with all your projects. Thom.

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  9. emmawts
    March 12, 2014 at 3:34 pm

    Hi Clive,
    We love your blog and we have an exciting project relating to it that we would love you to be part of! Could you please email hello@wetalksocial.co.uk or call us on 0113 815 2183 so we could discuss?
    Look forward to hearing back from you.
    Emma.

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  10. July 18, 2013 at 11:09 am
    • July 19, 2013 at 7:46 am

      Thank you so much, Karen! I’m honoured that you thought of me. I’ll post a reply soon xx

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      • July 19, 2013 at 9:21 pm

        You’re welcome 🙂 x

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  11. June 30, 2013 at 1:13 am

    Hi Clive, it’s nice to find you. Yes – sometimes friends say the most awful things, that if they heard that said to them they would definitely have a reaction. Well, you are safe here on WordPress, Clive! Many people, including myself, know what you’re talking about regarding depression. I hope you keep writing to us. I also like the references to popular songs on your blog. Blessings to you! Debb

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    • June 30, 2013 at 1:24 am

      Hi Debb, I’m pleased you did and thanks for following my blog and saying nice things. Those are very much ex-friends now, by the way!

      Liked by 2 people

      • June 30, 2013 at 1:26 am

        Oh good! You deserve loyal and caring friends like you are to others.

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:31 am

        That’s so sweet of you, thank you! I like you already 🙂

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:34 am

        Thank you Clive – ditto! People tell me I have an uncanny ability to “read” people and sense what they’re about. In this case, it would apply to meeting people online! 🙂 I want to be a good friend to others, so I am blessed to meet others like that. (you too)

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:39 am

        I’d like to think you’re right, but it’s not really for me to say! I do sense a kindred spirit though 🙂

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:40 am

        Yay! Here’s to our “kindredness” then! 🙂

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:45 am

        I’d happily drink to that! Pity my medication doesn’t allow – so a virtual glass is raised to you 🙂

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:46 am

        I know what you mean! Ok, virtual it is!

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:48 am

        Agreed! And with that, as it is approaching 2am here I bid you goodnight and sweet dreams, and I look forward to seeing you again soon. 🙂

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      • June 30, 2013 at 1:50 am

        Nighty-night!

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      • July 8, 2016 at 9:00 am

        And that is their loss, Clive. I think whatever you choose to entitle your posts will be quite fine with me. Have a marvelous day! Clare

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      • July 8, 2016 at 9:21 am

        Many thanks, Clare. I’d forgotten all about this – it seems so long ago now! You’ll see that I have carried on the theme – many song and film references in my titles. You have a great day too – and thank you for the wave of love you’ve shown my blog today!

        Liked by 1 person

      • July 8, 2016 at 9:28 am

        You’re so welcome, Clive. I’m happy that people like you are here to share experiences they know will help others. and, of course, share the beauty of music, too. Take care and enjoy your weekend. Hopefully, I’ll figure out something to post about in the next few days. I tend to write by the seat of my pants! Clare

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      • July 8, 2016 at 9:39 am

        I only write and post when I feel like it – I can be erratic in my appearances! It’s a hobby, not a livelihood, so I have that luxury. Music is very important to me and features a lot in my posts – especially in the run up to Christmas, which has become a kind of theme for me. You have a lovely weekend too. Thank you for following – I’ve returned the compliment. Anyone who loves Joni Mitchell is fine by me 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

      • July 8, 2016 at 9:56 am

        When I listen to her albums, it takes me back to my college days. I thought you , a music lover, might like that post

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      • July 8, 2016 at 10:04 am

        Mine too. Those were such good times for music. Or maybe it was the time for us? I nearly wore out my copy of ‘Blue’ while at Uni.

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      • July 8, 2016 at 1:41 pm

        I was just talking about that album yesterday with a friend who is also a music lover, like us. He really loved that album. I actually found it and was reading the notes last night.

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      • July 8, 2016 at 2:32 pm

        So many stand out tracks, it’s a musical masterpiece and has stood the test of time. I return to it often.

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      • July 8, 2016 at 8:34 pm

        It really is. I do have some favorite albums that have the grooves worn out.Blue is one of them.💽

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  12. May 18, 2013 at 5:10 am

    Hello!! I have nominated you! http://catchhappy.wordpress.com/2013/05/17/oh-happy-days/ Be Blessed and Stay Happy!!!

    Liked by 1 person

    • May 18, 2013 at 7:51 am

      A well-deserved award for you, Tiffany, you’re doing a good thing in a lovely way. It’s great to know you and your blog. Thank you so much for nominating me too, it means a lot to me xx

      Liked by 1 person

  13. Moment Matters
    March 25, 2013 at 3:36 am

    Clive, how are you?

    Good news, we are giving you the “BEST MOMENT AWARD“. Congratulations and enjoy the rest of the day!

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  14. gemini
    March 23, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    Yes me too. I like you have suffered depression in my life and worked for the NHS!! I am studying OT now! 🙂 x

    Liked by 1 person

    • March 23, 2013 at 6:33 pm

      I’m pleased for you that you’re overcoming it and have found something good in your life. Hope you qualify as an OT – good ones are in short supply! Good luck! 🙂 x

      Liked by 1 person

  15. gemini
    March 23, 2013 at 3:45 pm

    Welcome to the blog world and I hope you find it therapeutic. Wishing you the best of health 🙂

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    • March 23, 2013 at 4:01 pm

      Thank you, it’s been good to me so far! And thank you for following, I appreciate everyone’s support when they make that choice 🙂 x

      Like

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