Ch-ch-changes Re-revisited

You may have noticed that I rely a lot on the Timehop app to fill in the ever-increasing gaps in my memory. Reliable as ever, it reminded me the other day of the original June 2016 post which I built into the one I’m sharing again today. A kind of ‘third time lucky,’ I guess. It speaks of two things which I believe are important, especially in these strange times in which we find ourselves.

The first message is that we benefit from ‘belonging.’ If you follow me on Twitter or on the Facebook page for this blog you will have seen the regular sharing of posts about the ‘Senior Salon.’ This began over four years ago and, as I say in the piece, has been an important part of my blogging life, as it has given me another outlet for my posts (which I badly need!) and has introduced me to some wonderful blogging friends. I think we all benefit from belonging to groups of one kind or another – they give us that interaction that we, as a naturally gregarious species, rely on. For those like me, who cannot get out much, the online group is a key part of our lives, and its importance cannot, in my view, be overstated. Happily, the post I wrote back in 2018 proved to be premature, and the Senior Salon reins were soon taken up by Esmé, who has been managing and expanding it since then. The latest weekly post can be found here if you’re interested. I hope you take a look – it is well-supported! And the link to Bernadette’s blog in the original post is also worth a view: she hasn’t posted for a couple of years, for personal reasons, but her Feminist Friday posts – in particular – were well-written, well-researched and enlightening.

The second carry out from my previous post is the importance that structure and routine can come to have in our lives. I’m not the most organised of people, so it helps me to develop a regular routine to keep me on track and, as the post shows, it is all too easy for that to be knocked out of kilter. In these pandemic days I would imagine that just about all of us have had to adjust to enforced changes to our routines. Some have probably been more successful at that than others! But we will have been adopting new ways of running our lives and, as lockdown begins to be relaxed, further changes are no doubt in the offing. Whatever they may be, we will be developing our ‘new normal’ to help us cope.

I hope you’re doing well, and can make any necessary adjustments to continue enjoying life, whatever it throws at us. Take care, stay safe. And there’s a great song to enjoy at the end of the original post, as a reward for getting there!

Take It Easy

Amongst today’s emails – just the usual hundred or so – was the regular Monday one from Bernadette announcing this week’s Senior Salon. It was a little different from the norm, however: Bernadette was giving us the sad news that it was to be the last Senior Salon. Looking back, I would guess that at least half of the blogs I read most often and, in particular, comment on, are those to which I was introduced by Bernadette. I understand perfectly why she feels the need to call a halt, and wish that I had the time and commitment to take it on for her – but, as you will have long-since recognised, I’m not the most organised or regular of bloggers! But I will always cherish those bloggers who, through our Senior Salon introduction, I now regard as friends – some have even joined me on Facebook, which is…

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Why Do You (Still) Pretend To Be Normal?

In these strange days of pandemic and lockdowns, many articles have been written about what life may be like when it is all over. Will we ever go back to being as we were, or will we have adapted into a ‘new normal?’ It was therefore a bit of a coincidence to see that I had posted this a year ago today, and I thought it worth sharing again for newer readers, or for those who might have enjoyed it so much the first time round and might be so bored in lockdown that they would welcome a chance to see it again.

As you will see, the main part of this is a reworked version of a post I originally wrote in 2013, but I haven’t really changed my view in the intervening seven years. Normal, for me, may still very well be different from what passes for normal for you or others: I’m pretty certain that Numpty Trumpty’s version of normality is miles away from mine, for example! Whatever (to get in a plug for my WOTY), it is a concept that I think we might all be revisiting in the months and years to come: “do you remember what life BC was like?” Let’s revisit this in a year’s time and see what we think then!

A couple of footnotes:
1. Mention is made in the previous posts of Men’s Health Week – it is coming around again, this year from 15-21 June.
2. BC, in case you needed reminding, stands for ‘Before Coronavirus.’

Take It Easy

A fellow blogger – Stevie Turner – published a post on Monday about the odd phrases that people have entered into search engines as a result of which they have landed on her blog. Her post is called ‘WordPress Search Terms,’ and can be found here – as with all her posts, I recommend it. I’ve often marvelled at some of the weird and wonderful things people search for. In my case, I once wrote a post for Think About Sex Day – yes, it really does exist – which gave me the opportunity to use the word ‘sex’ in the post’s tags, giving rise (or not, ahem) to countless disappointed people since then. I commented on Stevie’s post that my all time favourite was someone who had found my blog by asking ‘why do you pretend to be normal?’ I’ve always hoped that wasn’t aimed specifically at me, but…

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